It’s not easy to figure out how to start a conversation with a stranger: there may be many thoughts in your head, but few suitable ideas. Such knowledge is useful in any situation: aside from dating, networking has not yet been cancelled. Let’s dwell on this in more detail to learn useful things. We will start with the most successful tips.
When you pet cats, do you notice how high they get? What about dogs or other animals? Have you thought about what it means to them, and what needs it satisfies? So, people also need stroking. For us, they mean acceptance, recognition, gratitude, love, care. Psychological stroking is approval. It can be expressed verbally or non-verbally. Whatever we say, we need the approval of others. Such “strokes” mean for us that we are not indifferent to the world. And one of the easiest ways to “stroke” Russian girls for marriage from Ladadate is to compliment them.
We live in the land of advice. Tips are given to us constantly, on our own initiative, in pursuit, and even when we do not need them. We do not need advice, we all know ourselves. But teaching others is easy. And therefore, use it: ask your new acquaintance for advice on life or professional issues. They will respond with pleasure, and you will only have to listen.
- Please tell me how to solve such a problem […].
- You were recommended to me as a specialist in […] How do you think I should do better?
- Do you think this […] suits me?
3. Find Something in Common
If you find a common topic of conversation, it will evoke positive emotions and relieve tension. To find what is interesting for both of you, the questions will help:
- Are you here for the first time?
- What sport do you like best?
- How do you imagine the best vacation?
You can come up with something of your own: ask about the place of work or favourite leisure activities.
4. Tell Something New
Even with those you do not know, it is easy to start a conversation by mentioning some recent events. Start with the phrase “What do you think about…” or “Did you hear that…”. You can always talk about the weather, people love to complain about it!
5. Be Sensitive
Soon, you will understand whether the interlocutor is interested in communicating with you. Maybe you will touch on some topics that they do not want or are uncomfortable talking about. In this case, show concern and start a conversation about something else. Or put up with the fact that your interlocutor is not too sociable.
You do not have to make a strong impression or tell the best stories to be considered an interesting person. If you actively listen and thus participate in the conversation, then you are also doing the right thing. Do not worry if you are not particularly good at holding a conversation — ask questions and be a good listener, most importantly do not remain silent. And definitely do not get distracted by your phone.